Posted on February 16, 2026
Last fall, when I enrolled in an adult education class called Beginning Spanish, I had one thing in mind. It had felt presumptuous to travel abroad and expect everyone everywhere to speak English. It would be more courteous, I thought, to learn something of the language that’s native to so many countries.
Despite the word “Beginning,” I felt dread as my first class approached. Could I really learn a new language at my age? Seeing my fellow students on Zoom should have been reassuring since it was a good guess that they too had been out of the classroom for a while. I shouldn’t have felt alone in my insecurity when the teacher opened the first class without a word of English.
I soon realized I had more to learn in Spanish class than the language itself. There were some important lessons to be learned about myself and my approach to new challenges.
First, I needed a new way to study. In college, my study habits had usually boiled down to cramming a ton of information into an all-nighter before a test. It worked well then, but I knew it wouldn’t now. Not only would I pay a steeper price for staying up all night, but the information wouldn’t stick with me.
So I began reviewing my course materials every day or so. It helped a lot but not enough to satisfy me. My teacher liked to call on students rather than take volunteers. I felt embarrassment and shame whenever I stumbled over an answer or mispronounced a word, which everyone did from time to time. I toyed with the idea of making some excuse for dropping the course but knew I wouldn’t feel good about myself if I did.
Then it hit me. It’s always hard to try new things because doing so means going outside our comfort zone, the place where things feel safe. But I knew – hadn’t I always preached this to my health coaching clients? – that if we stay where it’s comfortable, we never enter the so-called learning and growth zone. I also knew that leaving the comfort zone involves fear, and fear involves stress. I needed to practice what I preach and try to see the stress I felt as providing the energy and mental drive I needed to do my best.
My Inner Critic – the negative voice in our heads that tells us we’re unworthy, unskilled, too old, or any number of other things – was popping up regularly. I knew these messages were ones I’d internalized from someone in the past who may have been trying to protect me from failure. And I knew they were not necessarily true. I needed to notice these messages and challenge them.
I’d be lying if I told you I’ve been completely successful with these three tools: adopting a new study habit, reframing my fear, and muting my Inner Critic. But I’m on my way and am now taking Advanced Beginner Spanish. And actually – I can hardly believe I’m saying this – I’m enjoying it.
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